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Memorial Service for
DOROTHY EMMA PFINGSTAG MEEK
January 11, 1915 to July 7, 2001
Rev. Dr. Lowell Meek
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I know we shall all remember Dorothy for the beautiful woman that she was -- and not just in her outward appearance. She had all the qualities of the proverbial wife and mother -- industrious, organized, kind and giving. In her retirement years, she donated her skills as a barber to cut hair in her Churchs mission to the indigent of Tucson.
Like many mothers, she did the cooking and the sewing -- some of us remember her legacy of handmade quilts and other decorative handiwork, and the paper patterns for various articles of clothing that were sometimes spread out on the dining room table. She planted gardens and trees. Unlike most moms, she also did all our carpentry, plumbing and electrical work -- always carried a little tool kit in her purse -- she did cement work, too -- she was a builder. She designed and helped build our home in Lorain, with the later addition to it of an apartment for grandma Nettie. On into her early 80s, in her work with Habitat for Humanity, Mom was amazing people with her wood-working skill and knowledge of the details of framing and building. She loved working in her woodshop, building furniture. Each of her children can treasure the Grandfather clocks she made.
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Mom was a can-do kind of person. And, even though she started out as a tomboy who thought she would never marry, she raised six children. It helps to know that Dorothy graduated from UCLA with a major in music and a minor in physical education. She was a fine athlete -- encouraged her children in athletics. When Mom was very small, she was the mascot for her older brother Vivians basketball team. She would introduce the team by shooting the ball somewhere near the basket. As she got older, she seldom missed, even when she was in her 80s. As a teenager, she pitched softball on the local mens team. I still remember the first time I saw her pitch a fast ball! .. At UCLA, she was captain of the girls archery team, and taught us some of the fine points of the bow. Mom was an athlete, strong and skilled. |
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- Even at the age of 82, she beat us to the top of Grandfather Mountain in North Carolina, at one of our Family Reunions. She was driving go-carts! She lived an active, adventurous life. I remember her telling me once that she was one lesson
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away from getting her pilots license back in the 30s, before going away to college. And, when David finally brought his motorcycle home, Mom took it out for a spin -- and didnt come back for a while -- I think she secretly yearned to ride a Harley across country. Afterward, David corrected my memory. A friend, Dick Jamison, rode his mo-ped motorcycle to our house, and Mom took that bike out for a spin.
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- Herb, Viv, Stella, Grandma Emma, Carl, Grandpa Richard, Dorothy & Paul
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After graduating from UCLA, Dorothy became Supervisor of Instrumental Music here for the Steuben County Schools. She also taught music in the Lorain and Sheffield Lake schools in Ohio. She directed church choirs, womens vocal groups, the handbell choirs at Mt. Lebanon Presbyterian. She provided piano accompaniment for many solo and group performances. She played piano, the violin, the cornet and baritone horn in various orchestras and bands. Retired to Arizona, Mom loved making music with Dad -- playing violin in the chamber orchestra they started, playing baritone horn and cornet in the Tucson Beaver Band that toured Europe, and helping Dad start his own band in Green Valley. After Dads death, Mom alternately lived with Barb and Carol Ann, and continued to sing alto in church choirs (for as long as she could). Needless to say, she taught all her children to play at least two instruments each, and organized us into a family orchestra that played for various groups. In 1957, this little orchestra got its picture in the local newspapers, labeled as Lorains Family of the Year. I think Mom was especially proud of that.
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Let her works bring her praise. Finally, I want to comment on Mom as a leader. I didnt know until recently that Mom had been her High School class president and treasurer. Though Im not surprised. Mom was a leader. She supported Dads Masonic work by joining the Eastern Star and the Social Order of Beauceant, an organization for the wives and widows of members of the Knights Templar. In 1966-67, she served as the Supreme Worthy President of the national Beauceant. Women who served with her or under her leadership would frequently comment on how delightful, competent, and organized she always was. She was particularly proud of the efforts that the Beauceant made to support the Eye Bank that helped make corneal transplant surgery possible. And, both Mom and Dad, I think, found special delight in being part of the charter group that founded the Good Shepherd United Church of Christ now thriving in Green Valley, Arizona.
Carol Ann had the privilege of delivering the eulogy for Mom at her former Church in Pinnacle, North Carolina, a week ago, and (with her permission), Id like to close with Carol Anns closing paragraph. She said, Eventually, the ravages of time and mind took from [Mom] most avenues of expression, yet her spirit, her will to go on, her indomitable determination continued. She, who was always a take-charge, strongly independent personality, had to learn great patience and had to employ tremendous ingenuity in making her needs understood. Each new day was an exercise in great fortitude, bravery, and trust. During her last year we all rejoiced that, under the splendid care she received in the home in which she was born, the Lord answered prayers that she should find joy again. She began to laugh again, sometimes to cry -- all in the right places. And when it was her time to move on, she let her family know she was ready in the only way she could -- by the steady, deep gaze of her big brown eyes and the pumping of her only useful hand, as if to say thanks for being willing to let her go. As much as she loved life here, she had a deep understanding of and faith in what wonders she would encounter in the hereafter.
As a fitting tribute to Dorothys faith -- and because she asked that it be sung -- some of her daughters and granddaughters will sing Dads arrangement of Somewhere Over the Rainbow. He arranged it as a trio that Mom and Barb and Carol Ann often sang. The beautiful land beyond the rainbow is the Heavenly Kingdom for which all our souls yearn -- where our mother now walks a yellow brick road paved with gold.
One of Moms favorite parting benedictions, sung at the closing of her Beauceant meetings, is written in your Bulletins.
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God be with you til we meet again.
By His counsels guide uphold you.
With His sheep securely fold you.
God be with you til we meet again.
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- Carol Ann, Richard, Barbara, Dad, Alan, Mom, David & Lowell
- Family Reunion, Ligonier, PA 1995
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